Does this sound familiar?
- Feeling guilty about sneaking “forbidden” foods…
- Exercising as a way to “make up for” (or punish yourself for) all those calories you ate…
- Binge eating because “I’ve already messed up so much today, why bother?”…
This is what happens when food becomes something other than food. It becomes “friend” or “foe.”
Too often, food becomes the villain in a bad B-movie.
It tempts you.
It controls you.
It even laughs at you.
So you kill yourself in your workout, hoping to save yourself from the evil food villain.
You go for an extra run, walk, ski or bike ride.
You starve yourself for just one day.
You go to bed miserable, thinking, “I really messed up on my diet today. I’ll try again tomorrow.”
The problem is, there’s always something.
It sounds like this in your head:
“No… I can’t be on it tomorrow because of that big lunch event at the office. I’ll skip breakfast or dinner to make up for all the food I know I’ll eat at the event, and I’ll get back on it again the day after.
“But wait, the day after is Friday and we’re going out to dinner with the Smiths. I’ll get back on it on Saturday.
“Oh, wait. Saturday, who am I kidding? And there’s a potluck on Sunday. I promised to bring dessert. Everyone is expecting me to bring the cupcakes they all love. And I can’t not eat my own cupcake! I’ll just get back on it Monday.”
See? There’s always something.
And the way you beat yourself up about is often encouraged in the fitness world.
“Just do some extra cardio,” they say.
“Exercise enough and you can eat anything you want and never gain weight,” they say.
“If you just had some more discipline, you’d be fine,” they say.
And “they” are wrong!
And “they” are wrong!
What can you do? How can you achieve your goal of shedding some pounds and getting fit, without all the guilt, excuses, and starvation that result in poor self-esteem?
Now this isn’t a quick fix, but it is the answer: Change your mindset.
Start by telling yourself that no food is “good” or “bad.”
Food is just food. Period. Its purpose is to nourish you…body, mind, and soul. Don’t let it nourish just your body and steal your soul.
The key is to recognize that you have choices. Every day. Choices about which foods to eat, how much, and which foods to avoid.
If you approach food with the desire to nourish yourself the best you can – body, mind, and soul – the choice becomes clear. You know which foods nourish your body. They are the single-ingredient foods. Like raspberries, carrots, kale, eggs, apples, etc.
Eat mostly plants, and you will nourish your body. You’ll also nourish your mind and soul, because you can feel great knowing you are taking care of yourself.
Once in a while, you can choose a food that may not be as healthy for your body; indulging occasionally keeps you from feeling deprived. Enjoy those moments! Don’t feel guilty about them.
Let’s face it, losing weight and getting fit is hardly about the physical stuff at all. It’s not really about how many times you lift weights or how much tofu you eat.
It’s about what’s going on in your head..what you think and believe about what you’re eating and the exercise you’re doing.
Think, “I love giving my body nourishing foods because it makes me feel great” over and over, and eventually it becomes a belief.
Then that belief leads to an action, where you make a choice that is good for you.
I know this isn’t easy, and maybe you need some help sorting out how to make this type of mindset a reality in your daily life. I’d love to help you!
Please click here to set up a time, and we’ll talk about how to apply this to your life.
Enough with the guilt and punishment. Let’s make eating food fun again!
P.S. Check out Lynne. She made the mindset switch and it has completely changed her life.